Dakota Chanel https://dakotachanel.com Water Priestess Mystery School, Courses & Retreats Fri, 04 Sep 2020 03:35:07 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.5.1 My Favorite Name for the G-spot https://dakotachanel.com/2020/09/my-favorite-name-for-the-g-spot/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=my-favorite-name-for-the-g-spot https://dakotachanel.com/2020/09/my-favorite-name-for-the-g-spot/#respond Fri, 04 Sep 2020 03:35:06 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=6745 I have always disliked the name G-Spot. To name a sacred part of a female’s body after a man who supposedly “discovered” it is so obviously wrong yet perfectly illustrates the backwards nature of our modern culture. After years of not finding anything better to call it besides the gratitude spot, I finally found a […]

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I have always disliked the name G-Spot. To name a sacred part of a female’s body after a man who supposedly “discovered” it is so obviously wrong yet perfectly illustrates the backwards nature of our modern culture. After years of not finding anything better to call it besides the gratitude spot, I finally found a name I am absolutely in love with.

I’ve read that the Taoists refer to the g-spot as the BLACK PEARL. This is the most beautiful and accurate name I have come across. 

It doesn’t feel like a pearl physically, but it does energetically. Just like a pearl takes an irritant and transforms it into something beautiful. We can alchemize the trauma into radiant wholeness. The pain into pleasure. The chaos into beauty. The separation into union. The numbness into feeling.

Pearls are the gems of the sea, just like the g-spot is a jewel in the watery yoni. Pearls come radiant and complete unto themselves, needing no polishing or cutting. It was thought in Ancient Greece that pearls were the tears of the gods. This is another potent symbol as this part of our body is deeply connected to tears and the heart. Whatever unprocessed emotions, especially grief and sadness, that are stored there become a literal dam that blocks our amrita from flowing.

It’s also interesting that it is a black pearl, not white or purple or gold. Black being the color that is the absence of all colors. It is not even technically considered a color by scientists because it is the total absence of light. It is the deep void. The primordial zero point. The inky portal of the womb. It embraces all. As white reflects, black absorbs. Within the arms of the divine mother.

Connecting with our black pearl is how we cultivate female ejaculation or what I like to call amrita orgasms. My favorite kind of climax.

Amrita orgasms feel like my cells have been baptized from the inside out.

Instead of an orgasm that feels like more of a contraction (such as a clitoral orgasm) it is a deep relaxation and pure surrender with a flow of nectar from our bodies.

A big part of my offerings to humanity it to support women to awaken to the power of their inner amrita waters. It is healing for our bodies and for the earth!

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Casual sex doesn’t exist.

There is nothing casual about exchanging sacred sexual fluids.

These waters flow as liquid scrolls of light telling a story deeper than could ever be communicated with words. Not just your story but that of your ancestors. Not just the pretty parts of your story that you like to tell, but those secrets maybe you can barely consciously remember yourself.

All the wholeness and all the fractures.

I’m not writing this to shame one night stands or any kind of consensual sex. In fact, the only lover experience I’ve ever had was a delicious and much needed exchange. It’s to bring awareness of what we are actually doing beyond a physical sensation.

As a woman, our womb is a portal. A port where the ship of sea men comes home. An inter-dimensional ocean that calls starlight into its depth and births celestial songs as babies to earth. Is our womb a heavenly garden of love, truth, sanctity, and virtues of heaven on earth? Yes. And it’s also a compost alchemizer of separation, lies, detritus and shadows of the human condition. This is why bringing the light of our awareness to the black hole of the womb is essential in transmutation and true embodiment.

Semen {sea-men} is sacred. However, not all semen is equal. It is influenced based on what you eat, thoughts you think, actions, karmas, ext. I have had semen that I ingested where I felt sick after. I have also had semen that has filled me with energy, love and vitality. The most powerful experience I ever had went like this…I was with the only lover I’ve ever had (I like to be in committed containers before I made love). I swallowed his seed and was instantly filled with energy and started hearing poetry that wanted to come through. It was late, so he fell asleep, and I went downstairs to write. After I caught the inspiration on paper, I went back upstairs and tried to fall asleep. Instead of falling asleep, I went into this space between waking and dreaming where I could see myself sleeping but I was still conscious. In that space, I felt myself be tuned into the frequency of the angels and it was like a radio was playing in my ears of music from heaven. The angels played two songs. They were the most exquisite songs I have ever heard and the feeling they evoked was purely divine. I remember wishing that it would last forever and the music would never stop, but then it faded. I lay there in awe and gratitude before falling asleep. When I told him what happened in the morning, he said that he knows exactly what I was talking about and that it used to happen to him sometimes. That showed me in a whole new way the power of semen. It is a sacrament that contains information of encoded light.

What if all men consciously knew the power of their wand of light and offered it as a gift in full healing to their beloved?

What if all women consciously knew the power of their oceanic womb portal and offered it as a gift in full healing to their beloved?

What a different world this would be.

The waters of man & woman are some of the most powerful on earth. They create human life. My prayer is that we remember this. That we hold the mixing of sexual waters with honor and reverence.

Sex is my deepest prayer.

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New Magdalene Story https://dakotachanel.com/2020/07/magdalene/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=magdalene https://dakotachanel.com/2020/07/magdalene/#respond Thu, 23 Jul 2020 03:51:16 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=6477 I’m ready for a new story. Jesus off the cross, alive.In Magdalene’s arms.Kissing her pregnant belly. The sacredness of sexuality & family. I see the return of the sun.The holy masculine essence.That says no more.With a warrior spirit.To this broken system that attempts to create perpetrators instead of protectors.But men.You are strong.You have fought wars […]

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I’m ready for a new story.

Jesus off the cross, alive.
In Magdalene’s arms.
Kissing her pregnant belly.

The sacredness of sexuality & family.

I see the return of the sun.
The holy masculine essence.
That says no more.
With a warrior spirit.
To this broken system that attempts to create perpetrators instead of protectors.
But men.
You are strong.
You have fought wars for us.
You have shouldered burdens for us.
Built houses for us.
Hunted food for us.
We need you home in the womb of love. 
The biggest battle that needs winning is the division of the sexes. We all want to love and be loved. The simplicity of our hearts deepest cries.

No punishment.
Taken off the cross.
Nurturing the wounds.
Tending the home hearth.

You want heaven?
Find god in your beloved.
And worship.

The holy family must be brought to the forefront of any revolution. The revelation that comes from within. The sacred pulse of father seed and mother ocean in the heart of infinity. To love. To love the other as one to create another. Two birthing three infinitely.

The pathway is tumbling into the Presence with you. Oh my love. Rapture. I see you made in God’s image. A radiant beacon of light.

This is a call to love.
With all the faces.
Gentle and fierce.

I see a prophecy coming into being.
The seeds planted at the beginning.
Sophiac sprouting.
The golden dawn is blooming.
Radiant rose rising.
Keep believing.
Keep seeing.
With 2020 vision.
We hold to the creation.
The clarity of union.
Sacred family be our crest.
Cradled at the breast.
Of loves pulsing breath.
Ocean tides rise and fall.
Kingdoms flourish then crumble.
Only a matter of time.
Before the waters rise.
So hear the cry.
Love with heart.
Know the truth.
Sing the hearth.
Home whole and holy.
In honey comb being.
Trusting in the mystery.

On this day, I honor not just one woman. I honor the lineage of the magdalenes. The mermaids in dev-ocean to the sea of love. Sacred union of the ocean womb and starlight seed coming together infinitely.

I choose a new Magdalene story. Heaven on earth as holy family.

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Oracular Musings https://dakotachanel.com/2020/06/oracular-musings/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=oracular-musings https://dakotachanel.com/2020/06/oracular-musings/#respond Tue, 02 Jun 2020 18:36:07 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=6321 There is a theif who wants to steal your peace. “You can’t be at peace now,” says the thief. There is so much to be not peaceful about. Here’s a great reason! That one looses allure? Here’s a better reason! “Oh this one, this one is so great you can’t be at peace! It would […]

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There is a theif who wants to steal your peace.
“You can’t be at peace now,” says the thief.
There is so much to be not peaceful about.
Here’s a great reason!
That one looses allure?
Here’s a better reason!
“Oh this one, this one is so great you can’t be at peace! It would be selfish!”, says the thief.
Do you finally see?
What will set you free?
The theif wants a feast.
But it doesn’t eat peace.
It only eats fear.
Shatter the mirror!
The illusion of separation!
We are the union.
These are the bells of reunion.
Starve the thief.
Release the grief.
Your heart a lake of peace.
Joy is my rebellion.

Make my fingers the quills of the goddess
Dip them in her milky ocean as ink
The divide ended in the divine play
Now is the rapture of the way
Return to us I hear her say
The holy trinity of divinity
Rapture of eternity
Freedoms kiss of forgiveness
You want bliss
Embrace
All you see
You and me
Lovers breath eternally
We share the air, we share the soil, we share the seed, we share the bliss & toil
We must remember we are royal when we humble
Kiss the earth with bare feet
Greet each thing you meet with the heart of sweetness
Harmony’s nest beaconing us to rest
In the inherent birthright with which we’re blessed
On the tide of Amrita I ride
No longer fighting the love inside
This bliss has exploded out my eyes
No longer blinded by the night
Hear my dreams take flight
In the cradle of your constellations
Open up and sing the nations together
Light as a feather
Drink freedoms kiss of forgiveness
The only way we liberate
Is to release all the hate
A million jewels could never compare to the brilliance of you
I have been blinded to true sight
I thought I saw before
But no
These eyes were lying to me
I can never see through the eyes of two. 
You comb my hair in the garden of a thousand suns
The simple pace of tending
My mind went on a walk
I don’t care if it returns
This clarity of peace
Worth all the chatter
Of false protection
The right way to worship is how the divine moves you
Wisdom of ancient gnosis pulses your heart and streams your blood
Follow the divinity in the curves of your body
Home to the source of purity

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With what’s happening in the collective, there is no better time than now to go out and gather your own spring water! 🙂 In honor of World Water Day, I want to share about one of the foundational aspects of my life, the magic of spring water!

The most important reason why I gather and drink my own spring water from nature is almost never addressed in research I do about the best kinds of water. In a science driven culture, we are concerned about alkalinity, deuterium levels, filtration, etc. Most people think of water as a substance, not as a living being. Not as a friend. One of your best friends, truly. 

The spiritual aspect is the number one reason I gather my own spring water. I also believe it is the most natural and healthy option coming from the right spring & not processed as it contains the healthy microbes and probiotics, but I want to address the spirit.

I see water as the elemental representation of the divine mother. She is what makes it possible to have any sort of earthly human experience. We are all formed from the sacred sexual fluids of our parents, gestated in the amniotic fluid of the womb. Our bodies are made of mostly water. Without water, there would be no humans, no trees, no animals, no flowers. It would be like mars.

Spring water bubbles up from deep within the ground filtered and charged through sometimes hundreds of thousands of feet of earth. I find it hard to believe that a filter or machine with around 12 inches of filtration material can be better than that. Not only does it emerge with physically pristine minerals, probiotics and negative ions, it also contains an unmeasurable spiritual essence.

Different spring water has different qualities physically, but also energetically.

There are legends surrounding healing springs around the world. Stories of how they were formed and who guards them. Lordes in France is said to have been created by the Virgin Mary herself and provides healing miracles to people still to this day. Tirta Empul water temple in Bali has a fantastical story involving the spring being created by the god Indra to thwart an enemy, who tried to kill his army with a poisonous pond (this water is for bathing only). The spring at Delphi in Greece is the naiad nymph Castalia said to inspire poetry to those who drink from her waters.

Springs are said to be portals to the other worlds. Guarded by nymphs, nagas, and all kinds of magical creatures.

These types of legends in Europe were almost wiped out with the Roman Empire and inquisitions. All who believed and practiced simple magic such as communing with the water spirits were killed.

One of my favorite stories is that of the well maidens. Legends about women in Europe called the well maidens who used to guard wells and provide water from golden goblets to thirsty travelers. One day, the king came through the land and raped one of them. Sparking the same behavior in other men. The well maidens disappeared. The wells went dry. A wasteland was formed. This tale is a reflection of the connection between water and sexuality as well as the connection between woman and the earth.

Now is the time to re-mem-ber and awaken the well maiden in us all. Mem is the Hebrew letter for water. Water has Mem-ory.

I believe in the values of local water just as much as local food. I see this movement growing in our lifetime. When we drink water from a place, it connects us deeper to the spirit of that location. When I go to a new place, I love to find a spring and drink from the local springs if possible. When I traveled to Glastonbury, UK for the first time, I fasted for 3 days on the sacred waters and local fruits right off the trees. I could feel the palpable connection with the land through this choice.

The spirit of water is calling us to reconnect with her in the deepest way. To gather our own water. Just like our ancestors did. Our ancestors didn’t have fancy water machines. They also didn’t create villages or settle where there was no water. Water was revered as the center of the community and the nodal point around which life could spiral out and take root.

Now we manipulate her, just like the feminine. Dam her waters, manipulate her flow. Plug our waters, take birth control. Sea the parallel?

Liberating water and the feminine are inseparable.

Going to a spring is a journey that connects us to the core of life on earth. When we see it not just through the lens of the physical, but the spiritual, we open to magical experiences. Maybe you’ll even meet a water naga 😉

HOW TO CONNECT SPIRITUALLY WITH A SPRING:
Introduce yourself & intention
Express your gratitude and love
Make an offering: one that contains your DNA like hair or saliva and the other something like a crystal or flower
Sing & pray
Sit quietly and enter meditation
Express that you are open to meet the guardian of the spring and deeper spiritual/unseen properties of this water
Open and receive the magic

I’ve traveled the world and successfully gathered spring water. Across the states, Hawaii, Europe, Bali. It takes prioritizing, but is so worth it! The only place I have traveled to that I couldn’t get spring water was Florida! So ironic for being the spring state. I’m sure that if I lived there and researched deeper and asked around I could find one, but I didn’t. The result? I was so dehydrated. The processed spring water from the store tasted and felt dead. My body didn’t want it. The green juice was more hydrating (had more hydrogen). The water we drink is the most foundational aspect of our physical health as we are about 3/4 water! Once you start drinking fresh spring water, it’s impossible to go back as you feel the difference so palpably in your cells.

Go to FINDASPRING.COM to see a comprehensive user generated map of cold and hot springs around the world!

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Praying During Sex https://dakotachanel.com/2020/02/sacredunion-2/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=sacredunion-2 https://dakotachanel.com/2020/02/sacredunion-2/#respond Mon, 10 Feb 2020 14:32:06 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=5413 If I’m in my head thinking while having sex, I love to switch to prayer and praise. It is so powerful to celebrate and pray for your beloved during lovemaking. To pour your love and gratitude into them. To feel it move and baptize every cell. Give the mind a beautiful practice until it’s ready […]

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If I’m in my head thinking while having sex, I love to switch to prayer and praise. It is so powerful to celebrate and pray for your beloved during lovemaking. To pour your love and gratitude into them. To feel it move and baptize every cell. Give the mind a beautiful practice until it’s ready to fully let go. Especially because love making generates energy and amplifies our thoughts. Sometimes we can be in work mode. Or list mode. Or chore mode. If the mind is still doing stuff instead of being present, give it something useful to do like honor your beloved or observe what feels good.

Example Thoughts:
I am so grateful for this beautiful beloved
What a honor to share my body with this person
Thank you for trusting me
I adore you
This feels amazing
I love it when you do that

Then think about all the sensations you can name. Focus on your breath and body sensations and empty the mind. Making sounds is very powerful to shift into presence.

Eventually, the mind will stop thinking and you’ll be immersed in the orgasmic sensations.

This is also a great practice to do in life in general! The mind loves to be busy and a lot of energy is wasted through overactive thinking or worrying. If you find your mind in thought loops or patterns, take out the tape! As my mama used to say. Mantras are very powerful for this. Also, focusing on breath.

Our thoughts are powerful and have an effect upon our reality. The more in integrity and life supporting we are with our thoughts, the more power they have and the more beautiful our life becomes.

Celebrate and worship with every thought especially when you don’t want to. This life is so precious and over before we know it. There is so much to be thankful for.

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Sacred Union https://dakotachanel.com/2020/01/sacredunion/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=sacredunion https://dakotachanel.com/2020/01/sacredunion/#respond Tue, 14 Jan 2020 23:12:24 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=5061 “Making love with you is my most powerful spiritual practice & meditation. Let’s cuddle, sync our breath and fill each other with gratitude.” Hearing these words pour like honey out my beloved’s lips are a soothing balm to my soul. After years of being in a relationship where I was told my sexuality & pleasure […]

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“Making love with you is my most powerful spiritual practice & meditation. Let’s cuddle, sync our breath and fill each other with gratitude.” Hearing these words pour like honey out my beloved’s lips are a soothing balm to my soul. After years of being in a relationship where I was told my sexuality & pleasure was a distraction on the pathway to god, now I’m in a partnership where we make love every day, and treat it as our favorite spiritual practice.

Your lover’s body is an altar

Your thoughts adorning the unseen spaces

Your hands tending the tender places

Maybe no one else has seen

We lovers touch the places no other light can get to

Make sure your thoughts are prayers

Your hands instruments of devotion

Don’t be blind

Behold the majesty in front of you

Your lips are jewels breathing rubies down my throat

Your rhythm the pulse keeping this heart alive

Your gaze the first thing to penetrate

Adore and be adorned in the splendor of rapture

Throw off these covers of separation

My body

Your body

Lay it

On the altar

Of beloved

True sight

One eye

Unraveled

See the god within your beloved and worship.

Sex and divinity are not separate. This is one of the most damaging consequences of certain modern religions. That we are sinners for having sex outside of marriage. Not true!

Some of the most spiritual experiences of my life have been making love.

You deserve to be adored. Cherished. Your sexuality is one of your most precious gifts. It has the potential to create another human being! What an honor to be celebrated and uplifted.

Any religion or spirituality that does not value union of the masculine and feminine, sexuality, and the sacredness of family is anti life and anti love and I regard as the true distraction on the earth. To demonize the body. To disregard relationships. Is a clever bypass. It’s easy to think you are enlightened by yourself in a cave. Try having a family and being in the world.

TOP TEN TIPS TO HAVING SPIRITUAL SEX

Hahahaaa there is no way I would ever make a list like that 😉 I’m totally kidding. But here are a few suggestions.

~ Be Present. Sounds simple, but actually is the hardest thing to do. Be completely present with the sensations that arise and be honest with your partner. The presence will guide the way!

~ Breathe into your heart, womb, yoni. Stay with the breath. Synch your breath. Alternate breath. Eye gaze

~ If your mind is thinking too much, switch to love and gratitude. Literally have a mantra of how much you love and appreciate the person you are with until it turns off in the presence of orgasmic bliss.

~ Delight your senses. Feed each other delicious foods. Anoint each other with precious oils. Massage. Play with sensations.

~ Cover your partner in rose petals. Heaven.

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What is a Water Priestess? https://dakotachanel.com/2020/01/waterpriestessdefinition/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=waterpriestessdefinition https://dakotachanel.com/2020/01/waterpriestessdefinition/#respond Tue, 14 Jan 2020 15:40:17 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=5059 In my definition, a water priestess means being in active devotion to and communion with the waters of life and womb of creation. It is the gnosis that water is an elemental representation of the divine mother. The portal through which light & consciousness is able to incarnate into form. The mystical physical source of […]

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In my definition, a water priestess means being in active devotion to and communion with the waters of life and womb of creation. It is the gnosis that water is an elemental representation of the divine mother. The portal through which light & consciousness is able to incarnate into form. The mystical physical source of life, water love. We understand that we are made mostly of the water, this planet is covered mostly in water, and that we can heal ourselves and the planet by cultivating a deeper relationship with this precious substance as expressed within and all around us. A water priestess can be from any religion, any race, any culture. There are water tenders in all ancient cultures. If choosing the ordination path and the title of priestess doesn’t resonate with you, you can choose a word that feels more in alignment with your soul such as water medicine woman, water wisdom keeper, or something similar.

Websters definitions of a Priestess:

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: a woman authorized to perform the sacred rites of a religion

2

: a woman regarded as a leader (as of a movement

My definition of a Water Priestess:

The above definition as pertaining to the water while also 

Not being “perfect” or “enlightened” or a “goddess” or a “master”.

But a priestess. In devotion to embodiment.

The same thing being a mermaid means to me.

Being in service to the sea of love.

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Woman. Don’t withdraw your love in intimate relationships because you aren’t getting what you want. You will never get what you want with less love. You are hurting yourself. This is a very common emotional tactic that I see woman wield in partnerships to manipulate situations through emotionally closing down the love fountain of the heart and opening the bitchy never satisfied mind mode. I see subtle ways I do it sometimes. Something hurts, contract & withdraw so it doesn’t hurt more. The golden key is communication. And staying open like a blooming flower. Of course, if you are in an unhealthy relationship where your heart flower is getting neglected or trampled on, please take your precious blossom elsewhere. But a lot of the times, we can avoid more pain by staying open and speaking our truth with honesty, kindness, and maturity.

For Example:
My babe & I spent the morning working out at the climbing gym. We came home and I wanted some alone time to take a shower and get ready for the next part of the day. I locked the bathroom door, which I never normally do. He knocks at the door asking what I’m doing and says he needs something. I get super irritated and instead of communicating that I need alone time and just finished a shower, I passive aggressively open the door, hand him the floss pick and say “I’m getting ready” with bad vibes and a irritated note to my voice. I notice I feel contracted and don’t want to be around him.

I pause. I take responsibility. It’s all an internal job. I realize I’m really mad at myself for not clearly communicating! So I choose to open my heart and express what happened for me and why I was snappy and irritated. I said that I realized I never asked him to leave me alone and ASSUMED he knew that the locked door meant I wanted to be left alone. I then communicated that in the future, if the door is locked to please only knock if it’s a time sensitive thing you need. He apologized for not reading the sign. I apologized for not clearly communicating. We created a new understanding. We grew deeper in love with each other.

This seems little. But things like this build up over time if not addressed and cause bigger issues. Like a low sex drive. Definitely want to avoid that one! 

No one wants to be the scorned woman. But every archetype has a message, so if she is present, see what she is trying to tell you. Most of the time it’s that your needs aren’t getting met. But the nag is not the one who is meant to get your needs met. She is the messenger. Listen to her. Thank her. Let go of the bitchy, demanding, rude, entitled nag. And empower her to be the Queen of Hearts!

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Dethroning the Dark Queen https://dakotachanel.com/2019/03/dethroning-the-dark-queen/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=dethroning-the-dark-queen https://dakotachanel.com/2019/03/dethroning-the-dark-queen/#comments Sat, 09 Mar 2019 00:10:26 +0000 https://dakotachanel.com/?p=2383 There is someone you need to fire right now. She has got to go. She can’t work for you another second, another day. She’s been ruling for so long that we think it’s normal. Push push push never good enough pain the way we learn. The ultimate critic. The ultimate judge.  There is a voice […]

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There is someone you need to fire right now. She has got to go. She can’t work for you another second, another day. She’s been ruling for so long that we think it’s normal. Push push push never good enough pain the way we learn. The ultimate critic. The ultimate judge. 


There is a voice in my head that tells me I’m never good enough. I’m never smart enough, pretty enough, funny enough, not enough. I call her the dark queen.


If we don’t dethrone her, we will never know peace.


We often speak of the patriarchy as if the fallen king is alone responsible for the current imbalanced state of the world. I find that the aspect of the self that most loves to blame the patriarchy is actually the patriarchy’s cohort, the dark queen. The dark queen and the fallen king are not able to exist without each other. Root out one and you root out all.
The dark queen has unmistakable qualities. When her black crown is upon your head, it’s full of judgement, criticism, and negativity. The dark queen is never happy. Never satisfied. There is always something wrong. No matter what you do to try and please her it is never enough. She believes she is righteous in her behavior and has all sorts of reasons and indignation to back up her misery. She is the ultimate victim putting herself in a dominating and controlling “queen” role to make her feel better about her complete feeling of powerlessness to be in her radiant center. It is a false sense of power that seeks to put others down even subtly on an energetic level in order for her to feel better. It can be completely subconscious. She loves drama and thrives on it. It’s a kind of “food” and “high” that feeds her. She claims not to like it and not know why her life is so hard, but actually feeds it subconsciously. She will bring up past behaviors of injustice to validate her actions and make it all your fault. The dark queen never feels good enough in herself and projects that all around.


One of the most powerful dreams I ever had showed me this archetype. In the dream, I was in a white angelic room with light. The only thing in the room was a golden throne. I was in complete ecstatic bliss and union with divinity. My body twirling around the room in total rapture. I was so innocently overcome with love that I didn’t even notice the throne and instead sat on the floor and laid my head on the throne’s seat. Abruptly, the dark queen burst through the door in a blackened rage. “How dare you sit on my throne!” She shrieked! I jumped up startled. She pointed her hand to the ceiling and commanded poisoned mistletoe to fall from the ceiling onto my cheeks. Staining them bright red. In shame.


This also shows how deep the soul & body are interwoven. My whole life, I have only gotten sunburn on my cheeks and was very easily embarrassed getting red cheeks up into adulthood. It still happens sometimes, but now I understand the root energetic that it is trying to remind me of.
This dream showed me a deep soul split within myself that was manifesting dark queen energy in my own mind & external reality. Instead of being afraid when the dark queen arrives triggered and upset by the pure love frequency of true power that she lost, it’s up to the joyful child to not shut down her light or go into shame or be a sponge for the negativity. Instead, she must rise into the queen of light and be fierce in declaring the truth of clarity and standing up for herself.


The antidote to this pattern is to recognize where the distortion is coming from. It’s coming from a disconnection from true love. From source. I find it often relates back to the mother wound. The dark queen must remember that nothing outside of herself has more power than her connection to the divine. To not let outer circumstances effect her inner state of being. She must reclaim her devotion to the original innocence of love. If she knew she was completely taken care of and could trust life, she wouldn’t feel afraid and lash out of fear trying to control through domination.


When the dark queen arises, don’t meet her with more dark queen. That just creates more shadow. Also, don’t meet her with naive, scared child. Meet her with the light queen. The true queen. The divine mother. Who is compassionate, yet does not tolerate such behavior in her queendom. She uses her sight and voice to bring clarity and truth to distortions.


A true queen is seated in her divinity. She is in service to a vision bigger than herself. She has no need to criticize, blame, or nag. Drama is of no interest to her. She does not hold onto grudges or the past. She is nourished from her divinity and connection to source/love. She is so in her radiant center of love that she can steer others back to their center without using manipulation, blame, nagging, guilt trips, or bad vibes. She radiates truth. She sees everyone in their original innocence, yet it not naive and also sees the shadow. She illuminates the shadow with the light of her awareness and the sword of her voice in fierce kindness. She uses her words with integrity to lift curses. To heal the sick. A good mother does not abandon her children. We are never abandoned and never alone. Even in the darkest places, even in the most trying moments, we are held by the great love that sustains all things.


We must do this inside ourselves. It’s all an internal job. Truly. If you put your hand on the stove and it burns you, you are either going to turn the stove off before you touch it or avoid the stove. Don’t keep sticking your hand in over and over. So why do we do this to ourselves in life when we talk about our problems over and over. Stop wasting energy complaining or worrying about your issues and instead take that energy and change your frequency. Take action to change your reality. Be empowered.
Put that golden light halo on your head. Claim your divine inheritance. Be in the power of the love in your heart and clarity of sight. Take back the rule from the fallen king and dark queen who will forever be at war with each other. Be the light queen and risen king who love and adore each other for all infinity. The Celestial Reign has returned. The divine child born. The holy rose blooming. Holy, whole and home.


How To Stop The Dark Queen Energy~ Don’t put up with bullshit & drama. Call the dark queen out inside yourself and others. Put on your crown of light and truth. Be in the power of clarity and discernment. Don’t play nice to keep the peace. Rise in to the role of true queen. A woman in deepest service to the highest good of all. Stay in your heart purity. Speak illumination into the shadows. Play. Celebrate. Be in Gratitude. Feel the feels! Have a dance party!


How to Take off the Dark Crown~ Recognize that you are creating your reality. You are not a victim. You don’t like someone’s behavior/energy? You don’t like what’s happening around you? Stop nagging, blaming, projecting. Take action. Change something. Don’t keep perpetuating the drama. Be fed by things that uplift you, not drag you down. Watch any addiction to pain, drama, or fear and shed these toxicities from your life. Celebrate yourself and those around you. See the beauty of the magic all around you. Commit to heaven on earth inside your own body. Remember that life is a great mystery and you will never be in control. Let the divine move you. You are worthy. You are enough.


To Sum it Up:

LOVE YOURSELF

LOVE OTHERS AS YOURSELF

LOVE THIS PRECIOUS LIFE


The dark queen is rearing her head quite loudly as I go to share this article. She’s convinced it’s not good enough and won’t help anyone 😉 I’m telling her that she is officially fired.
What. A. Relief.

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